This blog post is not about truth vs. lie. Instead, this post is about honesty vs. political correctness. It is about those sugarcoated truths that are borderline a lie. Those truths that we try to tell others in hopes that we spare their feelings. We do not understand that those sugarcoated truths are doing everyone a disservice.
Sugarcoated truths waste so much time on both sides. We try to go all the way around the fact; we never embrace the “full” truth. This is when those sugarcoated lies become problematic. The person (sugar coater), who has the issue, is getting angry because the issue is not being resolved. While the other person may not know the severity of the problem. Things remain the same, and everyone’s time is wasted.
Sugarcoated truths do more harm than good. The sugar coater never addresses the actual issue, and as a result, they become passive-aggressive. The exchanges become surface-level and just make the sugar coater angry. Passive aggressiveness causes long-lasting problems that may risk a friendship. I think of sugarcoated truths and truth as bee stings and ticks with Lyme disease. Would you rather have a bee sting hurt for a few hours than go away? Alternatively, a tick with Lyme disease that you may overlook at first can cause you a lifetime of pain. The sugarcoated truths are the tick. They are more bearable initially, but later they cause much discomfort and may ruin peoppeople’ses.
I consider myself very blunt and honest. I try to tell it like it is. I do my best to be respectful (and professional in those circumstances), but you will know what I am feeling. I do not know any other way to be. Instead, I would let people be honest with me and let it sting for a few days. Than to skirt around their truth and make me feel good. However, this does not work for me because I see right through the BS.
Be honest. Tell your truth. Move on.
Until next time:
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