Stop Apologizing!
My name is Antonio, and I am an apologizer.
I have learned, over conscious observations, that I apologize for things that do not need or deserve an apology. Usually, these apologies soften the blow of my “NO!” or uncertainty. This concerns my perfectionism; I want people to genuinely like me. Even when I say I do not care.
However, it is essential that I stop apologizing for things that do not deserve an apology. If those around me cannot handle my No, they do not deserve to be in my life. I have boundaries, and if someone feels comfortable crossing them, I am a person. They should go away.
Apologies are supposed to be genuine, and if I am simply apologizing so that you can feel better about yourself, I am not being my authentic self. I have worked extremely hard to be accurate and genuine to myself. False apologies are not the way to continue this standard.
I am not the only one who apologizes for things they meant. It happens to the best of us. We want people to like us. If we do not apologize for the persons-hurt feelings, they may no longer like us. Nevertheless, never feel that you must apologize for a person’s perception of you. This is what happens when we apologize for people crossing our boundaries. We give the other person the power to say what is right and wrong about us. By apologizing, we are just co-signing their preconceived notions of us. We are apologizing for simply being who we are. This behavior is not acceptable. You should never have to apologize for who you are or how you feel.
I am making a conscious effort to not apologize for who I am.
Until next time:
Let God’s light shine within and through you!
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