92% of the time, I present to the world the best I have to offer (my best self). I will admit the other 8% of the time are losses. There are days when I do not feel like being my best self or fall short of my expectations. This post is not about the 8% but the 92%. In most of my interactions with people, I present the best I have to offer. I try to treat others with the same level of care and concern that I would expect to receive. I try my best to be present and give validation. I try to be loyal and caring. I try to be consistent and steady. I try to be unbiased yet affirming. I am kind and self-aware. This is what I have to offer to the world.
Lately, I have encountered some individuals who do not want to accept my best. Either it is not good enough, or it is not what they expect. Especially when it comes to building a ship. Trying to be a good person and put light into the world is painful. Then figure out other people do not value it. It becomes exhausting when it comes from people you care about.
I learned how to be comfortable with my best, and let me tell you how. Before you follow these steps, you want to ensure the other person is not just having a bad day. Just like you are not at your best 8% of the time, allow those around you some time not to be at their best. Give them time to grow. Nevertheless, if you are sure it is them not accepting your best. Please proceed.
First, I had to make sure that I was at my best. I had to ensure that I was operating the 92% of the time and not the 8%. I did some reflection and thought about my interactions with these people. Was I giving them the best of me? If I did, then I was justified—if I did not, then maybe I owed them an apology.
Second, if you are at 92%, you need to figure out where the disconnect is. Does the person dislike you, or are they battling their demons? If they dislike you, you cannot control someone’s affection for you. Move on. If they are battling their own demons (because we know hurt people hurt people), then I think you still need to move on. However, you can still allow space for them to return at another time. Though, you are going to move on in both instances. As human beings, we tend to overthink and over-rationalize. This step is essential for you to know that you were at your best.
Third, move on with confidence. It is so easy to live in the past and hold on to people who let you go. Find comfort in knowing that you have done all you can and been your best self. No need to dwell on things that are not in your control.
Until Next Time:
Let God’s Light shine within and through you!
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