I realize it has taken me some time to get back to this post. However, I have struggled with how one is supposed to show love. In my previous post, I discussed that love is expressed differently worldwide. Since everyone experiences love differently, everyone will express love differently, which means I cannot tell you how to show love. Instead, I want to discuss how you should feel when experiencing love.
Though we will not discuss how you should show love, it does not mean it is unimportant. I would encourage you to find your love language. I’m a big proponent of love languages; the quizzes can benefit you professionally and personally. Here is a link to a love language quiz.
No matter the type of love (familial or romantic), the feeling of being loved should be universal. You should feel that the action is genuine, you should feel validation, and you should feel worthy of the love given.
First, you should feel that the action is genuine. Remember, when you give love, you should give it and not expect anything in return. When someone displays love, they do it because they choose to do so. As I always say, love is a choice and not an obligation. As a result, one should give it not because the receiver expects it but because the giver desires to do so. The giver is showing you love because you are a vital part of their life; they want to prove it to you. There should never be any Quid pro quo in showing or giving love. There should never be any expectation of gifts, physical affection, or money when the adoration is genuine.
Second, you should feel validated. Validation, as I think about it, is your entire existence being recognized and affirmed. When you experience love, you should feel the giver sees you for who you are; respects you for who you are; understand your power; and value your worth. The love action is simply a demonstration of that validation.
Third, You should feel you are worthy of the love received. This feeling has to originate from the receiver, not the giver. However, it does not matter how much the giver tries to show you if you do not feel worthy of the love shown. You will fill your mind with self-doubt and resentment if you do not believe you deserve it. These feelings never end well for the receiver. The lack of worth requires you to go through a healing process. To uncover the issue and complete the painful yet rewarding healing process.
I realize this is a simple explanation of how one should feel love. However, I think it is a pretty good start. I welcome any suggestions.
Until Next Time:
Let God’s Light Shine Within You and Through You!
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